Everyone has heard the phrase “strong independent woman”. Well, almost everyone. There are always those who have no idea what’s going on with the world, but let’s not worry about those people now. I believe I am a strong independent woman. And I feel great about it. But what is it really like to be a strong independent woman? When you hear the phrase, your mind conjures up this image of a fierce lady. A bold lady, who is unafraid of speaking her mind, who is unapologetic for who she is, who is self-sufficient, who is in total control of her life. But is that all there is to a strong independent woman? And are those the only things that make you a strong independent woman? I think not. Here are five of the most important things I learned from being a strong independent woman:
1 - It is important to express your opinions
I was shy and afraid of expressing my opinions for the fear that they would be dismissed or called “not good enough”, but I have learned that my opinions matter and that by expressing them, I open myself up to learning new things and gaining new perspectives.
2 - Crying is okay
I have felt like a complete failure at so many instances and cried myself to sleep on countless nights, but I have always believed that I can take control of my life and I have worked towards that. Your failures don’t define you. You are much more than a few setbacks.
3 - It is alright to make mistakes
I have made a lot of mistakes, but I have also learned from them. Being a strong independent woman does not mean that you can’t make mistakes, or that you can’t depend on anyone, or that you can’t express your emotions, it simply means that you realize your self-worth.
4 - You matter
I was scared of being the only woman in my peer group and that always made me uncomfortable, but I realized that the discomfort was, in part, due my own unacceptance of the fact that I could be here, or that I deserved to be here. Once I realized that, I felt more comfortable in my skin and more accepting of my own worth.
5 - Solidarity is powerful
I have discovered that there is a community of women who will support you and listen to you and be the role models that you need them to be, you only have to reach out to them.
I am a strong independent woman and so are you! More power to all you queens out there.
With thanks - this article was written by Prashansa;